1. He hates when you throw him under the bus in public.
When you point out his faults, criticize or correct him, you make him feel like an idiot in front of others — and that’s demeaning. Don’t embarrass him in any way (especially in front of your children). Would you want him to do that to you?
2. He hates when you remind him of his past failures.
It’s something that was settled long ago (or maybe just last week), and you just can’t seem to let it go. We’ve all failed. Let go of things that have already been worked through and settled. If there are unresolved issues that were never dealt with biblically, don’t bring them up as a bully club, but take steps to graciously resolve them and move on!
3. He hates when you unload on him as soon as he walks in the door.
One thing I can’t stress to wives enough — HUG your man when he comes in from work!! Greet him with a kiss and some love! Give him an encouraging word and hold off on letting him know what a tough time you’ve had. He’s had a long day (I know you have as well, but I’m not talking to him, I’m talking to you). He’s been hit with challenges that you haven’t faced, and perhaps fought battles you’ll never know about. Be what makes it all worth coming home to.
4. He hates when you expect him to be just like your girlfriend.
He’s probably not a crafter or a scrapbooker or a fan of spending five hours at the mall. An afternoon in the nail salon is probably not his idea of fun. He’s not going to communicate with you like your best friend or want to know the complete story you want to tell. Down to the Very. Last. Detail. Appreciate him for being a man and leave the girl-stuff to your girlfriends.
5. He hates when you expect him to read your mind.
Just tell him. Please just tell him. Don’t play those mind games where you’re thinking: “If he really loved me, he’d know that I want him to…(fill in the blank) and I wouldn’t have to tell him!” Your husband will be so grateful if you’ll ditch the mind-reading game and just have some honest and gracious communication.
6. He hates when you treat him like your child.
Men know that they don’t think like we do. They know that it can be challenging to measure up to our expectations or desires. When they forget to close the lid on the toilet, it’s not because they want to irritate us. When they take the long route because they forgot the right exit, it’s not because they want to burn that extra gas. When we talk to our husbands in the same tone we would use with our children, it is disrespectful. Disrespectful. Period. And that’s a sin.