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Josh Duggar Confesses to Porn Addiction and Cheating on Ashley Madison–But He’s Not Alone

Another big skeleton just fell from the closet door to the internet’s feet for the Duggar family.

Ashley Madison, an adultery website with the motto, “Life is short. Have an affair,” was hacked by a group called the Impact Team. This group found their way into the Ashley Madison website dedicated to setting up extramarital affairs and now over 37 million people are at risk of exposure. The group threatened to release sensitive information about user accounts if the site didn’t shut down. Yesterday, they fulfilled their promise and leaked thousands of account names in a 20 gigabyte file to the dark Web.

Among the names listed was Josh Duggar.

There was a lot of speculation about the accuracy of the leaked info, but today Josh Duggar made a statement on the family’s website confessing to a double life. Below is the statement in its entirety from Josh.

“I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have been unfaithful to my wife.

I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him.

I have brought hurt and a reproach to my family, close friends and the fans of our show with my actions.

The last few years, while publicly stating I was fighting against immorality in our country I was hiding my own personal failures.

As I am learning the hard way, we have the freedom to choose our actions, but we do not get to choose our consequences. I deeply regret all the hurt I have caused so many by being such a bad example.

I humbly ask for your forgiveness. Please pray for my precious wife Anna and our family during this time.

Josh Duggar”

This news, coupled with the recent confession of Josh’s sexual molestation of four of his sisters and a family friend when he was 15, is nothing short of devastating.

The tragedy in this story is not just that it happened to a “BIG” family or a religious family—but that it happened to any family at all.

It doesn’t shock me. It doesn’t drive me to point fingers either. It grieves my heart.

This is just another tragic example of the extreme destruction of pornography and sexual sin.

It’s a silent killer and it feeds on the church like cancer.

It tears apart relationships, destroys lives, drenches people with guilt and shame and ultimately takes them out of the race altogether. It’s affecting our relationships, our leadership, our parenting, our churches and even the way we view love.

I dream of a church where marriages aren’t dashed to the rocks over porn ever again.

Ever.

A church where marriages are filled with Christ-honoring intimacy, steeped in integrity and the God-given erotic passion that comes only from purity, love and unselfishness—lifting up the other over self. A place where the husband relinquishes his cycle of addiction and replaces it with an addiction to the glory of Christ and the goodness of others.

I dream of a church where men are more passionate about upholding the glory of their wives than the pleasures of porn.

I dream of a church where there are no teenagers stuck in the lonely, grief-riddled cycle of porn and masturbation.

I dream of a church where teens view the opposite sex with holy wonder and not a burning, selfish lust.

I dream of a church where men fight for the gospel without the weight of hidden sin tied around their necks, pulling them back to the bottom of the ocean every time they move toward God’s presence.

I dream of a church where every woman knows their identity is set in Christ, and they experience the full goodness of his mercy every day.

I dream of a church where women are held up as beloved sisters in the family of God. A place where they are protected; a place where they can trust that the men are good and pure and easily trusted. A place where their beauty is not cheapened, their bodies are not objectified and their spirit and strength is not quenched. A place where their value to the Kingdom is fully appreciated and freely respected.

I dream of a church where no pastor watches porn on Saturday and preaches a message on Sunday. A place where every youth leader, senior pastor and worship leader comes in front of the church to lead from a place of integrity and honesty and with a clear conscience. A place where there is no “shoe” waiting to be dropped at the board meeting. A place where there is no need for paid administrative leave to “work things out.”

I dream of a church where every leader sheds the cancer of porn like a heavy winter jacket in spring.

If this dream came true, what would the bride of Christ look like to the world? Just remove this sin—not every sin—just this one. How would the world see our marriages, our families, our leaders?

This kind of radical change can only happen if we band together in prayer and talk about the dangers of porn with our kids, in our churches, in our families and in our schools–early and often.

My prayers go out to the Duggar’s and my prayers go out to every family that’s been devastated by porn addiction and sexual sin.

May the grace of God prevail and the weight of sin be smashed.

Amen.

By Brian Orme

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