N – Notice the little things.
My husband really does want me to notice his latest haircut even though I really can’t tell the difference. When you notice things about your husband it says to him that you’re aware of him, appreciating him and – convey this one, too – admiring him. Make your observation into a compliment not a complaint. (In other words, don’t notice that his shirt is wrinkled or he’s wearing athletic socks with casual shoes. Notice that he still looks nice when he dresses up – or doesn’t.)
O – Offer to do one thing that will make his day go smoother.
You might be surprised at how simple his one request is – pick up his suit at the drycleaners, pack him a lunch, pray for him during a crucial meeting? Just offering to do something for him will show him your heart is tuned toward his needs.
P- Plan a surprise for him.
Men are, at times, like little boys. They love surprises and spontaneity if at the appropriate time. Find out what he’s been missing and bring it back whether it’s a hairstyle on your head or a favorite place to eat.
Q – Quit directing, correcting, and controlling.
(That one came from my husband and I tried not to take it personally!) Let him lead. It will show him that you do believe in him and his ability to handle a situation.
R – Respect who he is and what he does.
He needs that from you more than you realize.
S – Spontaneity.
Be unpredictable, but in a good way. Suggest you eat somewhere you never have. Wear a color you never have before. Go outside your comfort zone and take a risk with him. It will make him feel like he has a brand new wife, especially if you’ve been mothering him more than dating him lately.
T – Text him endearing messages.
Like “You’re still the one,” “I’m a lucky woman to have you” and “You still take my breath away.” Chances are, he may begin to text some of those messages back.
U – Use a soft voice with him.
Few men are attracted to loud and boisterous. Talking softly conveys femininity.
V – Visibility.
See “L- Leave the lights on.” It’s that important to him, which is why I’m mentioning it – twice!
W – Watch his favorite movie or show with him.
Even if you can’t stomach sports or another episode of “Man vs. Food,” if he loves it, watch it with him. And try to enjoy it – for his sake.
X – Xercise.
(Ok I cheated on the spelling here…but how many words start with X?) Exercise will improve your mood and overall health, which will, in turn, make you more enjoyable to be around. Even better, exercise along with him, if it’s possible.
Y – “Yes” – say it often.
It may be his favorite word from you. “Yes, we can invite your friends over for the game.” “Yes, I’ll try that new type of food with you.” “Yes, I’ll wear that just for you.” Think: “Your will, not mine.” Self sacrifice goes a long way in marriage.
Z – Zealously pursue Christ and your husband.
As you look to God first as your Heavenly Husband (Isaiah 54:5), your earthly husband can’t help but notice Christ-like character in you…the essence of true beauty. And when you pursue you pursue your husband, you are affirming to him that he is worth the pursuit.
About the Author: Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and author of several books who helps women and couples find strength for the soul. She and her husband have been married 28 years and live in Southern California. For more on her ministry, books, and free resources, see www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.
