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Mom Slams the “Evil Step Mom” Stereotype With Viral Note to Her Ex-Boyfriend’s New Love

True to her last name, Audrey Loving loves her precious daughter, Riley, more than words can possibly describe. And by the looks of this 4-year-old bundle of adorableness, it’s not hard to see why.

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You could imagine that sharing her with another mother would be anything but easy, but that’s exactly what Audrey’s doing—with poise, class and a revolutionary attitude that’s slaying the “evil step mom” stereotype once and for all.

The 24-year-old from Newport News, Virginia, met her ex-boyfriend Corey Henry when she was 18. They got engaged and had their daughter Riley, but a few years later, their long-distance relationship and irreconcilable differences caused the two to split.

Audrey has full custody of Riley, but Corey comes to take her on certain weekends. When Corey began dating someone new, Audrey was admittedly a little guarded about having her baby around another woman at first.

“Of course it’s hard,” she said. “You have a kid and your mama bear comes out.”

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“I would write a whole list for Whitney. Things like, ‘Don’t leave her in the bathroom,’” Audrey explained through laughter.

But Whitney continued to impress her by keeping her updated about Riley regularly and even texting her pictures. Audrey wasn’t about to let the mama bear in her destroy a beautiful thing.

“The fact that someone’s there loving my daughter…I’m at peace knowing she’s being taken care of,” she said. “The more people that love your kid, the better.”

The fact that Audrey came from a blended family herself gave her a particular compassion for the situation Whitney was handling like a champ.

“I come from a blended family—I have stepsisters, half-sisters,” Audrey told TODAY. “Growing up, I heard the negative talk about the ‘other woman,’ and I didn’t want my kid to hear the same thing… It’s not fair. Kids are smart.”

And Audrey wanted to make sure that Whitney knew just how thankful she was for her with a heartfelt post that has now been liked and shared by over 80,000 people on the Love What Matters Facebook page.

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It reads:

This is my daughters fathers girlfriend. The sweetest thing ever! I’m super thankful for her because when she visits her dad she feeds her, takes care of her, buys her gifts, and basically takes care of her like her own. Why do all these moms act so spiteful and jealous towards the other women? NOONE said it was easy trying to be a mother to a kid you didn’t have. So when there is someone trying, don’t push them away! Because they DON’T need the drama they WILL leave and then you’re stuck with someone who is the evil step mom. Yes they exist! I see them everywhere! A kid can have two moms because in my eyes the more people that love her I’m happy! I would never make her feel like an outsider; I’m extremely thankful for this girl. ❤️❤️❤️ Ladies, grow up and focus on being a good mom. Love more hate less!

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Since the post was written last week, Audrey has received over 5,000 messages from others dealing with similar circumstances.

While she’s definitely flattered by all of the positive feedback, there’s just one main takeaway that she wants people to remember:

“Just be a grown-up and put the kid first. Teach the kid love.”

In a world full of jealousy, hate and revenge, it’s so inspiring to see moms like Audrey fighting her human nature to conquer a difficult situation with a simple dose of love. Well done, mama bear. ❤️

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