Bear Grylls is well-known for his extreme survival skills and his willingness to eat, well, just about anything he finds under a rock on his show Man vs. Wild. But Grylls is also a strong Christian who’s passionate about seeing his marriage thrive.
In a recent column for UK’s GQ Magazine, Grylls penned an essay about the secrets of a successful marriage. It was simple, candid and full of tips every couple can practice.
“The vicar who married Shara and me told us that marriage is like making a piece of precious glass. Do it right and you’ll create something beautiful and lasting. But glass, like a marriage, is fragile. They are both very easy to break if you take your eye off the ball,” Grylls writes.
How do we do this, Grylls asks? “First off, remember that there’s no such thing as a ‘perfect’ partner.”
Early in his marriage, Grylls and his wife, Shara, signed up for counselling. And even though many of his friends were confused about this—why would you go to marriage counselling if you do not have problems?—it was a great move to strengthen their relationship for the future.
One big takeaway from the couples counselling, Grylls writes, was to plan a date night, “once a week if possible. It doesn’t have to be expensive or fancy.”
Grylls also believes that we should prioritize our marriage relationship—above the kids. This idea is controversial for some, but Grylls lives by it. “Couples often think that the kids should always come first, but smart couples know that the best foundation for the family is their relationship,” Grylls writes.
It’s also important for us to reserve the best of our day for our spouse, Grylls writes, being careful not to come home grumpy with the leftovers of our strength and time. The smart couple will flip that scenario and reserve their best for their spouse. “If you’re having a terrible day, maybe cancel that [work] dinner and give the best of yourself to your partner,” Grylls writes.
Wrapping up the essay, Grylls shares one last important tip. “At our wedding, we asked our guests for their best marriage advice. We got some gems of replies, but the best came from a couple who had been married for 50 years. It was also the simplest.”
What was the unforgettable advice?
“Never stop holding hands.”