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What I Realized the Day I Finally Got “Skinny Enough”

I loved to dance when I was little, but I eventually stopped taking lessons. I was tired of always being the biggest one, needing the biggest costume, sucking in my stomach, hoping something would fit.

I wanted to look like my mother and grandmother—small, dark-haired, fine-boned, like blackbirds or Russian princesses. Instead, I looked like a Dutch peasant from a Brueghel painting. I looked like I belonged in a Beef: It’s What’s for Dinner commercial, and all I wanted was to be a fine, black-winged bird.

Growing Up Feeling “Too Big”

Some of my most painful memories involve trying to find something to wear. As a chubby adolescent, I was always between sizes. I ended up in cobbled-together outfits, held together with safety pins, feeling like an impostor.

Shopping was a nightmare, made worse by my size-two mother who would say, “Hmmm… is that a little tight?” Every time. Yes, Mom. Everything I’ve ever tried on has been a little tight. My whole life feels a little tight.

Being too big was a liability. It made me an outsider. And it certainly didn’t help my dating life.

I heard the fateful phrases a thousand times:
“You’re just like a sister.”
“You’re not the kind of girl guys date—you’re the kind of girl they marry.”

Which, now that I am married, is a compliment. But when you’re fifteen and just want to get asked to homecoming, being “marriage material” is as thrilling as having a “good personality.” Who wants a good personality when you could have a cute butt?

The Lie I Believed About My Body

Birthdays were especially hard. Each year, I thought, This time, by this birthday, I’ll be my new self. But I never was.

I’d have a moment alone at my party—blinded by sadness—knowing I’d drag the same shame into another year. And yet, hope would resurface: This is the year. This one.

I shopped defensively, hiding behind the “right” clothes. I watched my friends shop for fun—it was as foreign to me as breathing underwater.

I had pages torn from J.Crew catalogs, filled with the clothes I’d buy once I was thin. I knew life would be easier then. But that life never came.

Shauna Niequist
Shauna Niequisthttp://www.shaunaniequist.com
Shauna Niequist is the New York Times best-selling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, and Present Over Perfect. She is married to Aaron, and they live in Chicago with their sons, Henry & Mac. Shauna is a bookworm, a beachbum, and a passionate gatherer of people, especially around the table. See more from Shauna on her website.

Pornography Is ‘Open Door’ to Demonic Evil That Can ‘Infiltrate Our Lives’: Bible Teacher’s Warning

The Bible paints vivid stories of spiritual affliction, possession, and healing — stirring accounts that have captivated Christians for over two millennia, while also...

Wow, I Literally Wept When This Adulterous Wife Texted Her Husband, “Can I Come Home?”

She grew up believing love was a weakness and clung to that lie even after marrying a godly man. Watch how God destroyed her life to make it beautiful again.

Christian Girl Is Burned to Death by ISIS but Her Final 2 Words Prove That God Wins

They torched their house while the daughter was in the shower—she died in her mother's arms.