“At 7pm houses all around the country are breathing a sigh of relief as they reach that time of the day when parenting ends and ‘me time’ begins.
Don’t think I’m judging you, I’m not!
If that is what works for your family, then it’s wonderful… I know many families who thrive best with more structure… I’m just sharing our way…
My kids go to bed late.
They wake up late.It’s ok.
I’m a night owl too!
Around 2am is when I’m at my most creative, as an aspiring author this is when I can best focus on writing…
The kids love our evenings, we are all relaxed after our usually busy day and we spend those hours reading together or watching movies. We may draw pictures or play games… It’s a special time.
We began this after I heard from other families who lived with autonomy… At first I thought they must be insane…
But the more I thought about it the more sense it made to me… I’d long since learned that children are often far more capable than we give them credit for and can be very good at recognizing what they need!… This was just the next step in that!We had a few difficulties at first.
My eldest in particular decided that it meant he never had to sleep at all.
I guided him, taught him how to recognize his sleep cues, pointed out the effects when he stayed up too late.
It wasn’t like I just turned away from my children or stopped parenting because we didn’t have bedtimes… It was a lot of work and support and guidance. (In fact bedtime at 7pm was much easier for me! – What is easier isn’t always what is best though!)We merely removed the control and the force!
And before long they fell into their natural circadian rhythms.
… And we flourished.Now my guys are older and they are pretty much in charge of when they sleep and when they wake.
