When Brandie Wood took to Facebook to share the “experiment” she did on her twin boys, she had no clue just how far it would go.
On November 2, 2015, this California mom decided to take tallies of how many times her boys looked at her as they played with one another. She sat in the corner and watched patiently as their eyes repeatedly met hers time and time again.
After her results were in, she shared them with her Facebook network to offer some inspirational parenting insight to a few friends. Instead, within three days, her post had already been shared over 42,000 times…and that number has continued to grow over the next year.
When you read her findings, you’ll understand why:
“Today I did an experiment, I watched my boys play. As I sat quietly in the corner of the room I tallied how many times they looked at me for various reasons: to see if I saw their cool tricks, to seek approval or disapproval for what they were doing, and to watch my reactions. I couldn’t help but wonder if I was on some sort of technology what message would I have been sending?
28 times my angels would have wondered if the World Wide Web was more important than them. 28 times my boys would have not received the attention most adults are searching for. 28 times my loves would have questioned if they were alone emotionally. 28 times my kids would have been reassured that who you are online is what really matters.
In a world where we are accepted as who people perceive us to be and not who we really are, in a world where validation comes from how many followers or likes we have, in a world where quality time with loved ones is being replaced by isolation and text messages from the other room, I beg you to be different.
Please put down your technology and spend some time with your family & loved ones. The next generation of children is counting on us to teach them how to be adults, don’t be too busy on social media, you never know who is watching and what message you are sending.”
Brandie is shocked by how much attention the post has received, as she made clear in this comment on her viral post
“I think technology should be limited, a healthy balance,” Brandie told The Huffington Post. “Technology is a double-edged sword. It helps and hinders. Everyone should find what works for them. Just being aware will help tremendously. I am guilty of being connected to my phone as well. This experience has completely humbled me to be more present.”
None of us are perfect parents when it comes to being attentive to our children (or in any other category for that matter), but this is a pretty awesome reminder that our time with our kids is undeniably precious—and they are watching us.
Now, it’s up to us if we want them to see our eyes glowing back at them, or the glowing apple from the back of our iPhones…