You’re Not Gonna Change People With Your Facebook Comments—But This Will


We live in a world where it’s so easy to target others from behind a screen.

We live in a world that labels people before seeking to understand people based off of what we see on their profile or in a comment.

We live in a world that’s become so filtered and censored and in-genuine.

We live in a world of stereotypes, broken relationships, division over something as simple as different political beliefs over hot-button issues, and a world that operates with a silver lining that essentially says, “you’re not welcome here if you disagree with me, or because of this choice, that belief, or those words you said.”

How messed up is that?

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Cyberbullying and internet drama is at an all-time high. It may be due to the fact that more people than ever before are using social media and internet services. Perhaps it’s due to the intense political atmosphere. Maybe it’s a combination of both.

It’s almost as if Facebook comment threads and Twitter wars are like another form of entertainment. And the temptation to get involved can be so strong! You know how it is, when you see something you totally disagree with, something that someone says that’s completely wrong and just makes your blood boil…it’s almost second nature to want to say something, to defend something you personally may not even be being attacked for, or to start typing viciously in an attempt to prove them wrong.

It’s like we are more eager to research all the reasons we’re right and put a 15 paragraph comment on a Facebook post that will likely profit us nothing than [that] we were willing to research a project in school that would profit us a passing grade.

It so clearly reveals the pride in the human heart…the desire to be right and doing whatever it takes to feel as if we “win.”

Maybe you’ve been bullied on the internet for your beliefs or for taking a stand. Maybe you’ve simply been an observer of the ugliness and constantly shake your head, wondering when (and if) it will end. Or perhaps you’ve been one of the instigators, the one who just can’t help but refute anything that doesn’t line up with your beliefs and perhaps you’ve even resorted to name calling.

How do we move past this? What do you do when someone else is just SOOO CLEARLY wrong? Aren’t we obligated to speak truth when people are off track?

Well, yes. But the likelihood of completely changing someone’s mind by challenging them on a social media platform is very unlikely…and it’s also incredibly impersonal. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If you shared something that they totally disagreed with and they responded with a list of reasons why they believe you’re wrong, would that actually convince you that you’re wrong? Or would a good, natural conversation over coffee be healthier?

Look, you’re not going to change people with your facebook comments. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand for what you believe but I have to think God is far more interested in seeing us LIVE OUT what we believe than He is about seeing us TYPE OUT all over the internet what we believe.

Jordan Lee
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Jordan Lee is the creative voice behind the blog, The SoulScripts. She is passionate about seeing women set free by the love of Christ and works to bring them to that through sharing real, raw, and relatable stories and anecdotes with a creative spin. She launched her site in 2015 on a simple premise — to get real, to sort through the lies women believe, and to encourage readers in Truth while offering touches of comic relief along the way. She especially loves to keep it real by speaking openly into real-life struggles and offer encouragement through storytelling because she believes that our stories are the most unifying thing we have. The messy, broken, and imperfect parts of life are the threads that weave us together, reminding us that we are truly not alone. She understands the reality that we all have imperfections, brokenness, and pieces of our lives we’d rather not show. She recently published her first book, WholeheARTed: A Coloring Book Devotional, released this past spring. It is available for purchase via Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Lifeway, and more. When she isn’t writing, you can find her with a coffee in hand as she dives into the Word, jogging through town, and traveling the globe with her husband. You can get to know her more on Facebook, Twitter,or Instagram.