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Why I’m Not Teaching My Kids to Have Self-Confidence

As Christian parents, we want our kids to make the right choice when faced with peer pressure. We want them to have self-confidence.

It’s as if all of us are asking this one question: How can I teach my kids how to have self-confidence? 

Because raising self-confident kids is the key, right?

On the surface, yes, it seems that teaching kids how to have self-confidence would be the best way to raise passionate, articulate kids who set the world on fire for God.

That is until you dig deeper and realize that our kids need more — way more — than just confidence in themselves in order to be truly successful.

Instead of teaching our kids how to have self-confidence, we must demonstrate to our children how to have godly confidence — an unshakable, unchanging assurance — that is founded on dependence on God.

By teaching our kids how to develop self-confidence based on God’s promises (instead of their own abilities) we can give our kids the firm foundation they need to accomplish the beautiful plans God has for them (Jeremiah 29:11).

WHY SHOULDN’T WE TEACH KIDS HOW TO GET SELF-CONFIDENCE?

Perhaps it sounds wrong for Christian parents to not teach their kids how to have self-confidence.

Maybe you’re asking, “Isn’t it counterproductive to teach our kids to become dependent on anything? After all, don’t we want to raise self-reliant kids?”

No, teaching kids to find confidence inside themselves shouldn’t be the goal. To be quite frank, self-reliance and self-confidence (at least the way it’s defined by societal standards) isn’t biblical.

Instead, we want our kids’ self-worth to be determined not by their fleeting emotions (or the thoughts of those around them) but by the unchanging, deep riches of the Creator’s love for them.

That kind of self-worth doesn’t come from being more confident in self but from developing a daily dependence in God.

Since the enemy is often quick to attack our kids’ confidence, imagine how different our world would be if we could teach our kids this kind of godly confidence! Wow.

Wouldn’t you love to develop this same godly confidence in your kids? It’s something that my husband and I continually — and imperfectly — seek to do (with God’s help).

Let’s discover how we can layer God’s promises into our kids’ hearts — bit-by-bit as they grow from toddlers to teens — in order to guide our children into authentic confidence that’s grounded not on their imperfect abilities but on God’s great purposes and plans.

My husband and I firmly believe that if our kids can grasp these 11 biblical truths we will be raising the happy, confident kids we long for them to become.

11 TRUTHS TO TEACH KIDS GODLY SELF-CONFIDENCE

Let’s walk through each of these foundational truths that teach kids how to have confidence based on God’s promises for them.

I’ve written each one from God’s perspective as if He were speaking to our kids directly.

P.S. Click here to get a really great (and really simple) Bible study method bookmark to teach your kids these scriptures about godly self-confidence.

This awesome Bible study method makes it so easy for kids to not only understand but apply their biblical truths about godly confidence [in] their lives. The printable bookmark (download it here) makes it easy for them to remember this simple Bible study method.

Godly Self-Confidence Truth #1:

My love for you lasts forever, and it’s because of this love that I’m always wanting to be close to you. (Jeremiah 31:3)

How awesome would it be if our kids were convinced–deep down in their soul–that they were continually being pursued by God’s love!

I believe that if our kids knew that they were wholly and eternally loved by their creator (and allowed that principle to build their self-worth), they would never wonder how to have more self-confidence.

Alicia Michelle
Alicia Michelle
Author, speaker and blogger at YourVibrantFamily.com, is passionate about helping women discover their beautifully imperfect journey through parenting, marriage, homeschooling, faith and homemaking. She’s also happily married homeschool mom of four curious and amazing kids who keep her on her toes!

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