Should I Ask Her Out? 11 Things Every Man Should Know Before Asking Her Out (#6 Is Pure Gold)

3. Call her at least four days in advance of when you’d like to see her at an hour that doesn’t come across as a booty call (read: 11pm).

4. Take her to a public place for your first date. Don’t take her on a long drive into the middle of nowhere for a picnic. Weird.

5. Pick a place that is unique and provides a good atmosphere for listening to her and not staring at her breasts or thinking about her naked. Yes, you heard correctly: listen.

6. Make her feel comfortable. Topics that are off limits: what turns you on, politics, racial comments, kids, marriage plans, your fraternity if you’ve been out of college for more than three months.

7. Ask her questions. Ask her about herself, what she’s interested in, what she loves (or doesn’t) about her job. Keep the conversation light-hearted.

8. Do not, under any circumstances, divulge the following:

• a. Your childhood secrets.
• b. Your family drama.
• c. Your history with foot fungus.
• d. Your psycho ex-girlfriend.
• e. How much you hate your boss (don’t be a complainer).
• f. Your 3am donut-eating habits.
• g. Your sexual history.
• h. Your daily phone call with your mom.
• i. Your video game domination.

9. Make her laugh. I cannot tell you how important this is. Make fun of yourself, tell a joke, share a funny story—anything to get her to laugh. Gentlemen: if you do nothing else, make her laugh.

10. Pull out your wallet and pay the bill. You asked her out, didn’t you? Be a gentleman.

11. Call her within three days and ask her out again. Repeat steps above.

Remember you are not asking her to marry you, its just coffee, or a drink, or dinner, it’s not a marriage proposal.  When you ask, ” Should I ask her out? ” remember that. You are not locked into a long-term contract. But the purpose of dating is to figure out what you like, enjoy time with the other person, and learn the skills necessary to develop healthy relationships with women. If you can’t muster up the courage to call her, then you aren’t ready to date.