“I Want to Give Up on This”: Wife’s Brutally Honest Post After 17 Yrs of Marriage Goes Viral

Like most women who have been married for any length of time, Whitney Fleming knows just how hard marriage can be.

Having lived the ups and downs of married life for 17 years, the blogging mother of three recently took to her Facebook page with some strikingly honest thoughts about being bound together in holy matrimony.

“Sometimes I want to give up on this,” she writes with a photo of her and her husband.

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“Sometimes I want to give up on the stability, the memories, the relationship built on 22 years. Sometimes I want to leave the man who gets frustrated too easily or often doesn’t see the world the way I do or still leaves the toilet seat up upon occasion. Sometimes I crave a simpler life, one without conflict or obligation or concessions.

Because sometimes marriage is just hard, too hard to see it through to the end.

This smiling woman in the photo is not the same person at 44 as she was when she met this man at 22. She is hardened and jaded and often feels broken. She is more compassionate to those in pain because she also suffers; yet sometimes she forgets to dispense empathy upon those closest to her. She puts others’ needs before hers because that is simply what mothers do; although sometimes she resents it. She loves hard and full and fierce; but sometimes she wonders if that is enough.

Sometimes I want to give up on this – and I’m not sure what stops me.

Certainly, it is the three young faces that stare back at me over the family dinner table. It may be the fear of living a life without a partner. Perhaps it is the complications of separating two intertwined lives.