“…Let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. Be straightforward.
If you don’t know how he feels or where the relationship is headed, ask! Don’t play into the dumb games by not asking where you stand just because you’re afraid you might not get the response you hope for.
If he’s leading you on or acting like you’re dating but unwilling to commit, you only affirm that it’s okay if you just go along with it and that doesn’t make the problem any better.
If he can’t give you a straight answer, drop him. But if it’s the other way around and you can’t give him a straight answer, if you’re playing games or unwilling to be honest, don’t be surprised if you get dropped.
“An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.” | Proverbs 24:26
5. Look him in the eye.
Eye contact shows respect, interest, confidence, and intentionality.
Talk about the hard things early on instead of just saying, “we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.”
That doesn’t mean be clingy or overly serious on the second date. That’d be weird. But do look him in the eye and be intentional discussing important things before you get too serious.
If he’s not man enough to handle your intentionality, he’s not man enough to handle a woman of character and confidence.
Don’t waste your time with a boy.
“But the wisdom from above is first of all pure (undefiled); then it is peace-loving, courteous (considerate, gentle). It is willing to yield to reason, full of compassion and good fruits; it is wholehearted and straightforward, impartial and unfeigned (free from doubts, wavering, and insincerity).” | James 3:17
Guys and girls:
We know that the culture around us plays games but that doesn’t mean it’s a game worth playing into.
We truly believe that we can reverse the culture, one decision at a time.
Think about it…for every one less person that chooses not to play the game, that’s one less person conforming to the culture and every one of those “one less persons” add up!
There are good, strong Godly men and women out there. And it IS possible to date with Godliness and intentionality in a culture that says you can’t.
Keep fightin’ the good fight!
If you’re looking for a resource, check out our dating devotional series, NaviDating! There’s a guy’s study booklet and a girl’s study booklet so that you can go through them with your boyfriend or on your own!
Get the girl’s booklet here: Navidating for Her
Get the guy’s booklet here: Navidating for Him
“So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this is love perfected with us, so that we may have confidence for the day of judgment, because as he is so also are we in this world.” | 1 John 4:16-17