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7 Beautiful Things About a Boring Marriage

My friends and I stood in the check-out line where our eyes were assailed with various tips about ways to spice up relationships. Headlines like, “9 Types of Sex to Reignite Your Marriage,” or “How to Save Your Marriage by Having an Open Marriage.”

I picked up one of the magazines belly-laughing over one of the tips. In fact, I laughed so hard I nearly peed my pants (as all mothers do). Perplexed by my behavior, my friends asked what was so funny about the headlines.

“Thank God my marriage is so boring and ordinary,” I said between fits of laughter. I was officially obligated to explain to my them how I managed to be married for 20 years. “What is so great about a boring marriage?” they asked. I imagine you may be asking yourself the same question.

Boring is beautiful. Boring is ordinary. While my husband hasn’t chased me down in an airport to profess his undying love for me or shown up at my door in a limo prepared to fly me away from reality, he has walked with me hand in hand thousands of times around the sun. He’s gone to Wal-Mart at Mid-night for milk. He’s helped clean up puke and put money into savings instead towards his dreamboat.

Chris and I met in high school. We sat next to each other in home economics and started dating when I was 15. We got married two weeks after my 18th birthday and it still feels like it was yesterday.

Whether I’m dressed to the nines in a little black dress or wearing a sports bra with no makeup, I won’t find myself crying, hurt, or insecure because I don’t have to worry catching his eyes traveling over another woman’s body. Sadly enough, many couples who end their marriage do so because one of the partners “got bored.”

Our culture is saturated with the message that marriages need to spiced up, kinky, or full of drama. Watch any movie that has a relationship plot. We’re force fed to believe that unless our relationships are filled with action, intense passion and drama like the movies Titanic, 27 Dresses, How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days, etc. then we must do something to save it before it ends in divorce.

Or maybe you feel stuck in a boring marriage. The mundane day in and day out eats at you and you aren’t sure what to do about it. When your marriage hits the boredom rut, remember to keep choosing your spouse, keep turning to him. Why? Because Christ sees you. He knows you and he keeps choosing you.

Maybe you got caught in in the big moments of dating, the wedding day, the honeymoon, buying the new home and having your first child. These moments are fresh in our memories and we base our future from them. It’s easy to get swept up in the feelings and memories but Paul reminds us of our identity. We were not just chosen by our spouse; we were chosen by God first. He loved us first.

Marriage isn’t about the big moments but the moments in between, the day to day. It’s the boring moments in between that make a break a marriage. It boils down to perspective.

Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman
Heather Riggleman calls Nebraska home (Hey, it’s not for everyone). She roams small towns looking for stories and coffee with her husband and three kids. She writes to bring the perspective of bold truths and raw faith into universal concepts women face from marriage, career, mental health, depression, faith, relationships, to celebration and heartache. Heather is a former national award-winning journalist and the author of Mama Needs a Time Out and Let’s Talk About Prayer. Her work has been featured on Proverbs 31 Ministries, MOPS, Today's Christian Woman and Focus On the Family. You can find her on Facebook, Instagram Instagram, or at heatherriggleman.com.

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