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What All Parents Should Do if Your Child Says They’ve Been Sexually Abused

After being sexually abused, I thought I had AIDS.

I thought I was going to die.

That’s why I told my dad about the abuse. That’s why I crawled out of bed late one evening, approached him as he was paying bills with a check-book in the kitchen, and spilled my guts.

I told him I had done terrible things. I told him I was a horrible sinner. I told him I wasn’t a virgin.

It was the late ’80s, and all I knew was that people who did bad things got AIDS. I had done bad things, therefore, I had AIDS and was going to die.

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Perhaps that sounds ludicrous, but that’s how my kid-brain interpreted the data, and that’s why I told my dad.

What my dad did next is what he should have done. It’s what any parent should do when a child says they’ve been abused. It’s what any church leader should do when someone says they’ve been sexually abused. But terribly, it’s not what many parents and leaders actually do.

He believed me.

That’s it. That’s the main thing: Believe your child.

Innocent until proven guilty”

As an attorney, I’m tremendously thankful for our legal system. It’s got issues, for sure, but the general principal that a defendant is innocent until proven guilty is absolute bedrock. It’s vital to the just operation of a courtroom.

But we’re not talking about courtrooms.

We’re talking about living rooms and bedrooms and kitchens. And in those places, you should always, always, always start off believing your child. Or friend. Or parishioner.

Somehow we’ve got this false idea that false accusations are the norm. They are not. Allegations that turn out to be fabricated do happen, and we should be aware of the possibility, but our default should be to believe the person who’s talking about being sexually abused.

Because sexual abuse is far more common than made-up stories about being sexually abused.

Now, believing the child in front of you does not mean you automatically believe the accused is guilty. I’m not saying you jump to conclusions and throw the accused under the bus. I’m just saying that you have to start off listening and hearing and giving space to the person in front of you. Start off believing.

Jonathan Trotter
Jonathan Trotterhttps://trotters41.com/
Jonathan has lived in Southeast Asia since 2012, where he serves as a pastoral counselor and helps lead an international church. He tweets @trotters41 and blogs at trotters41.com.

Trucker Watches A Grandma’s Car Explode Into Flames—Then He Sees a Little Head Pop Up in the Back Window

A car was traveling the wrong direction on Interstate 10 when the vehicle came from the right and drove straight into a truck, causing a massive explosion.

Airline Worker Gets Bad Feeling When 2 Teen Girls Hand Her One-Way Tickets—Then She Finds Out Who They Met on Instagram

"They kept looking at each other in a way that seemed fearful and anxious. I had a gut feeling that something just wasn’t right.”

Sexual Predator Reveals Why Christians Are the Easy Target: “I Considered Church People Easy to Fool”

"They have a trust that comes from being Christians. They tend to be better folks all around and seem to want to believe in the good that exists in people.”