It’s super sad to me that engagement ring shaming is actually a thing. I mean, I get that we live in a materialistic world, and I’ll be the first to admit that I can’t help but drool over a Tiffany’s princess-cut — but to judge others by the size or price of their ring just seems utterly ridiculous.
The rock on your finger doesn’t have the capacity to anchor your marriage, nor does its size proportionately represent the depth of love a man has for you or the longevity of a relationship. Trust me, I’ve seen a girl with a $40,000 engagement ring not even make it to “I do” because the guy was a total schmuck.
Regardless, the world we live in can be cruel, and [the] world of social media even crueler.
One bride-to-be who recently shared a picture of her engagement ring online knows this all too well.
After proudly posting a photo of her delicately designed ring on a Facebook wedding group, the brutal comments quickly flooded in. The ‘Minimalist band’ ring — which was purchased on Etsy for $132 — featured a sleek 14K gold band with a single diamond.
As we live in a world that preaches “bigger is better,” the ring didn’t go over well. Though the woman shared that she was “in love with it,” her sentiments were clearly not shared by others in the group.
“It’s so small you shouldn’t bother wearing it,” wrote one Internet troll.
“Take the key ring off your finger and show us the ring you ordered online,” quipped another. Someone else compared the dainty piece to a paper clip.
Other women expressed pity at what they perceived to be a joke of an engagement ring.
‘I guess neither of you wants anyone to know you’re engaged huh,’ wrote one woman, with another bitter bride-to-be adding, “It’s so pitiful, I just can’t. It’s too sad.”
A particularly harsh critic left this biting comment:
“I have assembled my colleagues of world-class physicists and astronomers, we are building new instrumentation so we can see your $#@%^*! ring.”
Taken aback by the overwhelmingly negative response, the bride once blushing with excitement could have recoiled, blushing bright red in shame.
But thankfully, she remained confident that the true mark of lasting love has nothing to do with the size of the ring on her finger.
Kudos to this strong woman for not letting these ring shamers put a damper on her big announcement. In a society that readily jumps at any opportunity to criticize and judge, let us be a people who uses our words to build people up by professing truth in love and choosing simply to be kind.