Divorce is messy. And as hard as it is on the couple going through it, it can be even more damaging for the children. While the court battles over custody may only take weeks or months, the far-reaching effects of divorce can have an impact on kids long into adulthood.
DadMum, a blogger who was a child of divorce, shares his experience in going through the painful tug-of-war process with his own parents in a viral Facebook post that has served as a much-needed wake-up call for parents everywhere:
“We grew up in a custody dispute. It went on for our entire childhood and we never really found stability.
I remember the court dates;
the weekend access handovers in a public place;
getting changed into my other clothes because this parent bought that;
But the one thing I’ll always remember above all else is the slander…
The snide remarks at family luncheons, the not nice conversations and the inappropriate banter on either side. For years I tried not to mention one parent around the other. I tried not to talk about my time at one house because it would only get questioned by the other.