It doesn’t stop there. Billy’s ways are shaping the future.
Billy further explained:
“I’m not advocating that everyone can or should do what we do for each other to model for the kids. But I believe it is extremely important for parents to show each other respect and care in front of the kids. If your ex doesn’t have a new [significant other], you got to make sure those kids have Mother’s and Father’s Day cards, birthday gifts, etc.
Kids want to care for their parents by nature, but they cant do it alone. It’s our job to facilitate that. So even if your ex is a terrible person in your eyes, you need to set it aside and realize your kids love this person. Seeing you mistreat someone they love is traumatic, whether you want to own it or not.
So focus on the kids, make a pact, and I think you’ll be surprised to find that your mutual focus on the kids will actually benefit your post-divorce relationship because it takes the spotlight off your individual hurts and anger and resentment.”
The main takeaway Billy wants people to understand is that regardless of how devastating your divorce may be, if ever you should find yourself in that situation, remember that it’s bigger than you.
The primary focus needs to be on “raising good men and strong women” so they can learn how to build healthy lives and relationships rather than repeating our mistakes. Now those are some POWERFUL words to remember. ♥
