“I Don’t Need My Husband”


In today’s wave of ultra-feminism, it may not be surprising to see a viral post circulating entitled “I Don’t Need My Husband.”

After all, 2017 and beyond has been the battle cry of the ‘independent woman.’ But Amy Weatherly‘s version takes a turn that one might not quite expect.

The down-to-earth Christ-loving blogger, explains that while she may not need her husband the way she needs Jesus or air, she desires him so earnestly for the better woman he makes her. In her words, “obligation has nothing to do with it.”

But the way he supports, empowers, and encourages her has made her twice the woman she could ever be without his love and fortifying presence in her life.

Read Amy’s post chock-full of relationship truth below: 

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“I don’t need my husband. He’s not Jesus. He’s not oxygen. He’s not gravity. I can live without him.

I can get out of bed in the morning without his help. I can make breakfast all by myself. I can go to work, drop off the kids, come home and make dinner on my own.

I can take out the trash. I can change the lightbulbs. I can mow the yard. I can start a fire. I can take the dogs for a walk. I can clean the bathroom drain. I can’t change my own oil, but I can drive to Jiffy Lube and pay somebody to do it for me.

I don’t need my husband.


I am complete as an individual. I am whole as a woman. I am fulfilled with every ounce of who I am. I am good on my own. Seriously, I’m good.

But gahhh, I’m so much better with him.

I’m more patient as a mother. I’m more fun as a friend. I’m more daring as an entrepreneur. I’m more kind as a human. I’m more merciful as a Christian.

I’m more willing to give out kindness because of the kindness he gives out to me. I’m more willing to be encouraging because of the encouragement he is to me. I am more willing to hand out grace because of the grace he hands out to me on a daily, sometimes hourly, basis. I am more willing to be loving because of the love he has for me.

I am less scared to take a leap of faith because I know he’s waiting to catch me. I am infinitely stronger because I know he’s able to lift me. I am more balanced, because I know his arm is always there to steady my insanity. I am ready and capable and willing to face “for better or for worse” because I know he always has my back.

I don’t need my husband.

But I want him. I want him beside me. I want his hand in mine. I want his strength to help me through this life. I want his humor to lighten the load when things get heavy. I want every ounce of who he is to walk with me on this journey.

Obligation has nothing to do with it. Dependency has nothing to do with it. Duty isn’t even anywhere inside of the four walls of this picture.

I want him.

I appreciate him.

I choose him.

I choose him every single day.

And I’ll choose him for a thousand more.”

Kelsey Straeter
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Kelsey is an editor at Outreach. She’s passionate about fear fighting, freedom writing, and the pursuit of excellence in the name of crucifying perfectionism. Glitter is her favorite color, 2nd only to pink, and 3rd only to pink glitter.