“I Have to Send My 3-Year-Old Child Away. I Feel Punished for Being the ‘Good Guy'”: Mom Says ‘Consider It a Blessing’ if You Have to Stay Home With Your Kids


“Jason and I just had to have a very hard conversation to send Ellie away tonight for maybe a month… to stay with my amazing friend Anita, who did not even hesitate to keep her for us. And Ellie loves “Miss Nita.”

This is the face of someone who feels punished for trying to be the “good guy.” My job as an ER nurse is just that, my job, I don’t ever feel like it’s anything crazy or special or deserving of accolades. Jason feels the same way as a ff/medic.

But, our jobs are important right now and unlike many, we are still required to work. And that work carries a high risk of being infected, or spreading this [dang] virus. I have already been in contact with +covid patients, and the last thing we want to do is have Ellie surrounded by the potential virus we could carry home.

So, I feel punished for having to be the “good guy.” I have to send my 3.5yo child away. I won’t get to visit her. I won’t get to hug her. I won’t get to tuck her in at night. We have FaceTime, and that’s it. For up to a month, or who knows how long…and many of my coworkers have had to do the same.

So, if you’ve read this far and you are having to stay home with your kids all day, consider it a blessing and absolutely NOTHING less.

And for heaven’s sake, everyone, STAY.AT.HOME. The sooner this crap is over the quicker my kid can come home.

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Edit: since this has gone viral somehow, let me just set one thing straight. Don’t you DARE come at me for “getting rid of my child” and saying “you made a choice, there were other options” and “no job is worth sending my kid to a stranger to raise.”

1. Sure would be a crappy day for you if all the staff in your ER weren’t there because they all quit their jobs to stay at home with their kids

2. Tell me what other options I had since you are so in my shoes?

3. She is 15min down the road, staying with someone she loves and who loves her. We didn’t just wake up and decide to leave her with a stranger!

All the keyboard warriors can please just sit down.”

**This post was written by Devon Nicole Oeschsle and originally appeared on her Facebook page

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