I didn’t even consider that it could be bothersome until he brought it up, but I suppose it’s that way with lots of things. You’re going to find some things your spouse does annoying. No qualms about it. The difference of how it affects you long-term will be dependent on how you respond.
He began with, “It’s like when you leave your flatiron out every single time when you go to work. I could get mad about having to put it up every day.”
We sat side by side in our truck going down the road, and we talked about the key to a happy marriage in our mind’s eye.
We agreed as we talked about healthy relationships that continued happiness was dependent upon being able to see beyond individual, personal needs. To stay content in marriage it was important to place yourself in the other person’s shoes. So you couldn’t just focus solely on how a situation affected you, or focus only on your contribution to the relationship. You had to see what your partner was feeling, their sacrifices as well, and you couldn’t forget that you both were human and made mistakes.
He continued, “I had to remember that you were in a hurry when you left in the morning, so your straightener would be too hot to put away.”