I’ve heard from your wife—she needs your attention.
She tells me she’s lonely. She feels isolated and ignored. Her life is wrapped around children, work, and/or household chores. She used to feel in love with life, and in love with you, but now she feels worthless and uninteresting. She feels like she’s forgotten how to have fun. Depression and anxiety trap her in a cycle of stress and she can’t seem to snap out of it. How did this happen? Why can’t she become the woman she once was?
If you think back, you remember how she was at the beginning of your relationship. She cared about how she looked and tried hard to please you. You miss the girl you first fell for. Well, I can tell you this: she misses her too. She has matured and grown, but she longs for the days when you couldn’t wait to see her. She recalls being carefree and full of life. She can’t tell exactly when everything changed, but she knows she’s not the same. She knows something is missing.
The thing is, she has been really busy taking care of everything, for everyone, all the time. She has barely anything left to give. She’s tired. Maybe she has lost hope. Instead of giving up on her, exchanging her, or simply ignoring her, you can bring her back by turning your heart towards her. You pursued her once—you can do it again.