It’s pretty common to hear the phrase “You’re so lucky to have him” when friends are doting on a trophy husband. And while it’s generally meant as a compliment with good intention, the popular DadMum blogger poses that it can be a dangerous phrase to pass on to our daughters.
For the father of two, being a good husband — or finding one for that matter — is NOT about luck.
It’s about intentionality. Waking up every day and giving your wife and family your best. And being the inextricably linked “other half” by choice, not by chance.
In a viral Facebook post, DadMum shares his sentiments on “manning up” to be the rock your wife needs and the role model your children deserve:
“For as long as I’ve been writing people have commented and said ‘your wife is very lucky to have you’ or ‘I hope I find a man who treats me like that’ and truth be told it really irks me.
You see it’s not me who chooses how she gets treated. And it’s certainly not her being lucky. It’s about knowing your own worth and never being willing to accept anything less. That’s all it’s ever been. Because I’m nowhere near the person some of you make me out to be.
The minute I was rude. The minute I wasn’t proud talking about her or our family and the minute I showed any inkling that I wasn’t willing to put in the effort required she would let me know it wasn’t good enough. She wouldn’t cop it. And she would push me to become better.
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