What’s the first thing you do when something makes you angry or gets under your skin? You want to talk about it, right? If you’re like me then rant might be a better word. There’s something about spilling out our discord that seems to ease the frustration of it all, and while there’s nothing wrong with communicating your feelings, the popularity and frequency of social media use has taken it to a whole new level.
It’s so easy to quickly type out the first thing that pops into your head, but maybe you shouldn’t. And here’s why.
I still remember when my husband and I were dating at nineteen and after a gathering of several friends he was sullen and withdrawn. Upon questioning he confided to me that I had upset him by speaking comments in front of our friends that poked fun at him. I immediately felt horrible because I knew if the roles were reversed I’d be upset too. Although we have matured dramatically since that day, some things have not changed, and I believe that if I spoke inappropriately about my husband in front of our friends it would most likely hurt him still.
Men and women are very different creatures; about that there is no doubt. But then again we are the same in so many ways. Men aren’t without feeling. They get hurt, angry, embarrassed, and filled with shame. So when we as wives openly and publicly shame our adult husband for a mistake they have made we are actually doing something that if the roles were reversed would be worthy of the doghouse.