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Parents, It’s Your #1 Job to Get in Your Kids’ Way at All Times. Kids Do Not Deserve Privacy.

I am an assistant principal in a middle school (grades 6-8). When I have to search a student's cell phone, I often get sick to my stomach at what I find. It gets worse and worse every year.

WATCH: Mom Gives Birth to Family’s 1st Boy in 50 Years

"I just knew I was having a girl."

Grieving Widow Breaks Down Over 3 Men at Dutch Bros. Coffee Who Reached in Her Car Window to Pray

As soon as the young men heard about her husband, they extended their hands out the drive-thru window without a second thought.

The Silent Marriage Killer More Deadly Than Sex & Money—I Wasn’t Ready for This…

But having unmet expectations isn’t just a marriage problem. It’s a life problem.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re single, married, working, unemployed, old, young or [insert demographic here]. Having unmet expectations is lethal to everyone. No one is immune.

So…what’s the solution?

I’m a math guy. I ‘heart’ equations. I love crunching numbers and thoroughly enjoyed algebra and calculus in high school (although I probably couldn’t do a calculus problem to save my life now). So I came across an equation.

EXPECTATION – OBSERVATION = FRUSTRATION

Here’s what that means. Below are two hypothetical situations played out…

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Parents, It’s Your #1 Job to Get in Your Kids’ Way at All Times. Kids Do Not Deserve Privacy.

I am an assistant principal in a middle school (grades 6-8). When I have to search a student's cell phone, I often get sick to my stomach at what I find. It gets worse and worse every year.

WATCH: Mom Gives Birth to Family’s 1st Boy in 50 Years

"I just knew I was having a girl."

Grieving Widow Breaks Down Over 3 Men at Dutch Bros. Coffee Who Reached in Her Car Window to Pray

As soon as the young men heard about her husband, they extended their hands out the drive-thru window without a second thought.