While many 9-to-5ers may be tempted to believe that being a stay-at-home Mom is a walk in the park, Kayla Elizabeth Roussin knows that it’s so much more than playing and cuddles all day.
While of course she loves getting to do that too, she applauds her husband for not treating her job like it is any less important than his. When she decided to take on her current role (commonly know as the initialism SAHM), they agreed that she would be just that: a MOM. Though she may cook and clean during the day, her hubby does not expect that she does everything and has a spotless house by the time he gets off work.
In the housekeeping department, they are partners, and play a pretty 50/50 role in doing chores around the house as well as getting the kids involved in order to teach them as they go along.
In a viral post that has stay-at-home mamas everywhere cheering “AMEN”, Kayla details their typical daily routines, and the message it sends to couples everywhere is worth savoring and sharing:
“I just want to address something that has been heavy on my heart lately…
When my husband and I decided I should be a stay at home mom, we agreed that that’s what I would be, a MOM. I am not a stay at home housekeeper. Yes, I clean throughout the day, but my main focus will always be my children. Most of the cleaning I do during the day involves our kids in some way, switching laundry, unloading the dishwasher, vacuuming, picking up toys.. I want them to know that it takes a team to keep our home clean. But if we spent the entire day playing and learning and growing and the house is a mess at the end of the day, my husband and I tag team when he gets home from work.
He does not walk in the door and scold me for the pile of dirty dishes in the sink, he just cleans them. We fold the laundry together after WE put our kids to bed, and use that as time to talk about the day or whatever is on our minds. He does most of the outdoor work, not because I won’t, but because he uses that time to bond with the kids and teach them how to mow/weedwhip/etc. This house is OURS not just mine. These children are OURS not just mine. I refuse for them to remember me just cleaning all the time and I refuse to teach my children that the household duties fall on the mothers shoulders alone.
I stay at home to be present in their lives, not to make sure my house is spotless at a moments notice. If they want to play a game, I’m going to play. If they want me to snuggle, darn right I’m going to snuggle. If they want to color, we’re going to make a masterpiece to hang proudly on the fridge. If they want to read a book, I’m going to read that book as many times as they want.
