The traumatic aftermath of a miscarriage, even an early one, is an empirically proven, statistically significant trend.
When you have a miscarriage, everybody wants you to feel better. A lot of people want you to feel better at any cost, even the cost of denying what’s actually happened. So they try to comfort you, but their comfort sounds a lot like dismissal: I was told, “It’s for the best. You wouldn’t have wanted an unhealthy baby. You’ll be pregnant again before you know it.”
One of my friends got, “You have too many kids anyway.”
Another, “With your health, this was for the better.”
Another heard, “It was God’s will. There was probably something wrong with the baby anyway.”
People mean well. But words like this don’t acknowledge the fact that a miscarriage is a traumatic experience, and you can’t make trauma disappear by telling somebody that their trauma is not real, not legitimate.