Years ago, a newly divorced Gerald Rogers took to Facebook to reflect on what he wishes he would have known before it was too late. He admits there were a lot of things he could have done differently to save his marriage, and he openly shared the self-effacing letter in the most humble and real way.
"I remember finishing my ex-husband's answers as he admitted for the first time of an ongoing affair. As he confessed, I finished the words 'She’s pregnant.'"
"People ask you if you’re doing okay. You shrug it off, make a joke, lighten the situation any way you can. You say that you’re fine, and maybe you are. But I thought I would say the things swimming inside my brain anyhow."
"After all, there’s something wonderful about first dates, initial kisses, eager touches, and the anticipation of unknown emotions. There are so many people who will trade the 'boring' regularity and routine of a long-term relationship because they miss the newness of a budding romance."
"Suddenly I felt my phone vibrate within my pocket, unexpectedly I realized, for not many people contacted me at such an early hour. I pulled out the cell and was surprised to see a message from my spouse. He must not have gone back to sleep after I left..."
"I like to remind myself that if we are fighting, we are at least still caring about the marriage... So how do we communicate kinder, even when we feel upset?"
