A concerning new trend known as the “Fire Truck Game” is making its rounds among tweens and teenagers, and it’s crucial for parents to be aware of the potential dangers, and teach kids about respectful boundaries.
TikTok user @the.funny.nurse shared details of the “game” as told by her 11-year-old daughter in a now-viral video. Initiated by young boys, the “game” involves the boy placing their hand on a girl’s lower thigh. He informs her that he’s going to run his hand up her leg and when she starts to feel uncomfortable, all she has to do is say “red light.”
The catch is, when she says “red light,” the little boy will then say, “sorry, fire trucks don’t stop at red lights,” and proceed to finish running his hand up her body.
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Not only is this a disturbing “game,” it’s a huge violation of personal space and rights, it negates the word “no,” and it’s allowing our girls to be put into vulnerable situations where control over their body is taken away from them. Even worse than that, the game is encouraging sexual harassment.
Understanding the Fire Truck Game
The “Fire Truck Game” is not new, as some users shared in the comments, but it’s making its rounds again among school-aged kids, pushing the limits of personal boundaries. This behavior can lead to significant discomfort and crosses the line into harassment, making it essential for parents to address the issue promptly.
Users flocked to the comments with heated reaction.
“We’d be playin a game called Ambulance next,” wrote one.
“This was around when I was in jr high/hs (2015 grad),” another one shared. “My dad may or may not have have taken me to get ice cream after a punch was thrown. Allegedly…”
“We were getting credit carded back in the early 2000s,” recalled another. “No warning.”
Several users chimed in saying the “Fire Truck Game” is just a new name for what used to be the “nervous game,” with some saying girls would even go as far as just letting boys do the thing just to prove they “don’t get nervous.”
Why It’s Dangerous
- Boundary Issues: This game blurs the lines of personal boundaries, potentially leading to situations where teens feel pressured to tolerate unwanted touching.
- Peer Pressure: Teens might participate due to peer pressure, fearing social exclusion if they refuse.
- Escalation: What starts as a seemingly innocent game can escalate into more serious physical interactions, leading to discomfort or trauma.
- Legal Implications: Inappropriate touching, even in the context of a game, can have legal consequences and may be considered harassment.
Tips for Talking to Your Sons About Respecting Women and Girls
1. Open Communication
Foster an environment where your sons feel safe discussing their social activities and any uncomfortable situations they encounter. Encourage them to speak openly and honestly about their experiences.
2. Teach About Boundaries
Explain the importance of personal boundaries and respecting others’ space. Emphasize that it’s okay to say no and to stop any behavior that makes them or others uncomfortable.
3. Discuss Peer Pressure
Talk to your sons about the negative effects of peer pressure and encourage them to stand up for themselves and their friends. Let them know it’s important to make their own decisions and not to participate in activities that make them or others uncomfortable.