It was then when we discovered that sex is amazing, but it is also gloriously overrated. And that truth set us free to have a phenomenal sex life for the next 10 years.
We stripped the act away from every other expectation that was not simply “Fun. Us. Together. Now.” And in that context, we serve each other and loved each other for a decade.
Forget Hollywood
Some people believe that sex in real life is like sex in the movies. Everyone always gets an orgasm (at the same time) and there is no need to run to the bathroom to wash yourself.
Our world system has created such an idea of what sex is that it has corrupted the truth. And so people get lost in pornography because they are trying to recreate this fantasy that was created by another fantasy and only in a fantasy can it become “real.”
Real-life sex is not like most of the depictions you’ve seen—and that’s OK.
Have Fun
The truth is, sex is work. A labor of love and joy, yes, but still a labor.
Sometimes it takes time for both parties to really get into it. You’ll have to be patient with one another. But remember this, the whole point is to enjoy each other. Actually, the best sex happens when you focus on making it the best sex for your partner.
So work hard at having fun. Don’t take yourselves too seriously. Be creative.
Keep Learning
Communicate. Learn about each other and decide what works for you two.
If you get stuck along the way, then ask questions. Don’t keep your issues behind closed doors. Yes, it’s your sex life, your privacy, your intimate space, but there are others out there who have been together for a long time and have a learned a few things along the way.
Sex gets better, especially if you have been doing it with the same person for 10 years.
I am all about waiting till the wedding day, but I don’t think we should just stop talking about it after that.