By Jason Isaacs

Have you ever argued about something because you felt like you were supposed to but the whole time you’re thinking to yourself, “I don’t think I agree with my argument?”

There are certain things in life we are conditioned to fight for or against, but if we were to take a moment, remove all of our preconceived ideas, and all of our preferences for fairness, we might see the truth we so adamantly oppose.

I’ll just get right to the point. When I say, “sex between anyone other than one husband and one wife is wrong” your immediate reaction is probably to argue against me. I understand why. The idea that God would create something as incredible as sex, and then withhold it from anyone who doesn’t abide by a “traditional” view of purity and marriage seems unfair, old fashioned really.

Everybody has something to say about sex… unless you grew up in a conservative Christian church, then no one said anything. It’s always a little awkward when “Sunday school teacher sister Betty” buys a boa for the lingerie shower. Yikes! Who knew? You go sister Betty!

Your buddies at the bar, your girlfriends at book club, Hollywood, magazines, and websites, everyone has an opinion, but what does the Bible say? You might be surprised to know it has a lot to say actually, but this is not a research paper, so I won’t bore you with a ton of references. Instead, I just want to ask you one question. One question that will cut through all the noise, and help you clarify what you believe and if you agree with God’s rules for sex. You ready for the question? Here it is:

Has sex outside of marriage made your life better or more complicated?

Just take a moment and think about it before reacting. I can’t answer for you, but I can answer on behalf of the countless numbers of people who have sat on my office couch or in my living room, trying to explain how their life ended up where it is.

For some, sex literally made your life more complicated because now you have a baby daddy or baby momma who drives you crazy, but you’re forced to coexist for the sake of your child.