Dear Mr. Fix-it,
I am thankful for people like you. We would be sunk without your ability to look at a bad situation and figure out how to make it all better. As quick as lightning, you solve the riddle and make everyone happy.
I also feel kind of bad for you because you are the guy your family looks to in times of crisis. Isn’t it tiring sometimes? It doesn’t matter if that crisis is a leaky sink or a cranky in-law. You are the one that puts things back in place. You’d rather jump into action instead of sitting down and just being a passive listener. That almost feels akin to torture to you. You must DO something.
Sitting idly by is not an option! But it must wear you out being the hero nonstop. And sometimes, your wife and your kids just need you to hear them. Resist the urge to problem solve, glue your seat to the chair and sit still. Say, “Wow, that really sounds difficult. I am so sorry you are struggling.” Then you hug them. And here is the tough part . . . you don’t fix a thing.
If you don’t stop trying to be a savior to everyone around you, you will crash and burn. How can you carry the weight of the world every single day? Just let things play out and see where it ends up. God is in control anyway — and He is the only one who can really handle that much pressure.