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Jill Duggar Says Dad Pitted Siblings Against One Another, Used Kids to Manipulate and Intimidate Her

I am currently reading Jill Duggar Dillard's memoir Counting the Cost about her life growing up in the 19 Kids and Counting Duggar family, and it is both riveting and heartbreaking.

I Slept With My Mother When I Was 16—& I Have Good Reason for Letting My Kids Do the Same

"I’m sure it was the first time we had touched in months, maybe years. Sometimes I think that hand saved my life."

Married 69 Years, Hospitalized Couple Holds Hands Til the Very End

Tommy and Virginia Stevens, both 91, were, in the eyes of their family and friends, a legendary couple. The Tennessee high school sweethearts proved earlier this month that their love truly endured until "death do us part."

Hang On! Why Are There So Few Teens in My Church?

I got asked this question the other day – “What do teenagers want in a church?” It’s a tough question to answer because it’s like asking “What kind of music do people like?” or “What food do kids eat?” What people look for in choosing a church is often personal taste—location, denomination, people they know who go there, where their parents go, music, youth program, type of building, and on and on and on…

That is the wrong question. What teens want in a church doesn’t compare to what they NEED in a church.

What do teens need in a church?

1. A place with Jesus

This is the #1 thing that teens need in a church. If they are not meeting Jesus, then it’s a waste of time. Making them more moral, knowing the Bible, or being nice people is pointless without Jesus. Don’t just teach them Jesus—help them know Jesus.

2. A place with adults who care

Teens need adults who can invest and pour their lives into them. They need adults who can mentor and guide them on the right path. They are told by so many adults that they’re not worth the time or effort; they need adults who genuinely care.

3. A place to belong

Teens yearn for belonging. They will often do stupid and damaging things to belong. How about if they were given a place to belong before they even came through the door? Our church or youth group should be a place where any student can be “home.”

4. A place to serve

It has always amazed me the bad rap that teens get for being lazy and selfish. I’ve been on too many mission trips, work camps, and service projects to see the zest and joy that teens approach serving. It’s a rare thing to see in adults, but teens love to serve, and they need to be provided opportunities lest they end up being lazy and selfish adults.

5. A place to encourage (and be encouraged)

Teen culture is one of tearing down and destruction. Our church and youth group culture should be one of building up and encouraging.

6. A place to grow

You are teaching your students, but are they growing? If not, you need to look at why not. Students should know that when they come to youth group or church they will leave just a little bit better, a little bit changed.

So be looking for ways to provide what teens need, not necessarily what they want. Giving them what they want might seem like the quickest way to get them in the door of your church, but giving them what they need is the best way to get them in the door of heaven.

What else do teens need from the church?

Jill Duggar Says Dad Pitted Siblings Against One Another, Used Kids to Manipulate and Intimidate Her

I am currently reading Jill Duggar Dillard's memoir Counting the Cost about her life growing up in the 19 Kids and Counting Duggar family, and it is both riveting and heartbreaking.

I Slept With My Mother When I Was 16—& I Have Good Reason for Letting My Kids Do the Same

"I’m sure it was the first time we had touched in months, maybe years. Sometimes I think that hand saved my life."

Married 69 Years, Hospitalized Couple Holds Hands Til the Very End

Tommy and Virginia Stevens, both 91, were, in the eyes of their family and friends, a legendary couple. The Tennessee high school sweethearts proved earlier this month that their love truly endured until "death do us part."