In the past few weeks, I have learned a lot about my heart and what it was (and wasn’t) created for. I have learned that my heart was not created for break-ups, for separation or good-byes.
Our hearts were created soft and gentle, loving and giving and passionate things designed by the very hands of God.
God created our hearts for a steady, sure Love. For a Love that has no possibility of breaking. For a Love that is then and now and forever. For a Love that is faithful, devoted, and sacred.
Our hearts were created for the kind of Love that God gives, for the kind of Love that God IS. And a Love that deeply resembles His Love, here, between two people.
Hear me in this: I have absolutely nothing against the way we date in this culture. I think it’s a rather exciting way to get to know someone, to experience new things, to learn about each other, about serving and loving unconditionally, communication and humility. (I could go on, but that would take this whole article.)
I think dating is great. Where I start to have something to say is where our hearts lay in those relationships.
My sister, God has shown me to have my heart set on my husband.
I’m not dating him right now; I don’t even know if I know him right now.
But, you better believe that I can honor him and love him right now.
Right now, as in this very moment.
Right now, as in this season that I’m in.
Right now, in this city, in this place, in this culture.
I want to cultivate a heart of love and honor for him, starting now.
So, that means, that even if I am dating someone, even if I have an amazing boyfriend, that I understand that he is just that: my boyfriend.
Not my husband.
So that means, that even if I am single, that I understand that my heart wasn’t meant to be thrown at any guy who looks my way.
It’s for my husband.
So, that means, that I understand why I want to guard my heart, and why I do it intentionally, out of a place of willingness and not begrudgingly: because I love and honor my husband.