According to Hope Exchange, 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage, and some estimate that the statistic is as high as 1 in 3, considering the number of losses that occur before pregnancy tests are taken.
Singer and actress Jana Kramer knows the pain of being 1 in 3 all too well.
The ‘One Tree Hill’ star opened up about her recent miscarriage in a raw Instagram post this week, in an attempt to break the stigma of “suffering silently” with this burden:
“Today I am 1-3. I debated posting this for the exact reason why it’s a silent struggle. I don’t want I’m sorry or sympathy. I just don’t want to feel alone. And I know I’m not. This unfortunately isn’t my first loss. When I first found out I was pregnant I wanted to shout it from the rooftop but I know for reasons like this we have to wait. So because we don’t tell many, we have to suffer silently…and suffering silently was my thing in the past, but it’s not now.”
Kramer continues with a call for women who have suffered miscarriages in the past to find solidarity with her and others grieving this same loss, adding that guys are not exempt from the painful aftermath.
“For the women out there who have miscarried in the past and need support and a place to grieve their little one lost or to those in the thick of it like me who are currently grieving and in pain, let us all be there for each other. You don’t need to feel alone and maybe that’s me talking to myself but if you need a place to share, I’m here for you…and all of us are (and guys too. We sometimes silence your voice because you feel bad to express how it’s made u feel so let this be a safe place for you too).”
While Kramer is attempting to create a safe space for other mothers and fathers in her shoes, she admits that right now she doesn’t have all the answers, nor the words to say. Thus, she’s using this time to draw closer to the presence of God, seeking His face in this tragedy that surpasses her understanding.
The mother of one points people to a poignant blog post by a friend who eloquently pens the words of wisdom she can’t seem to find right now.
“Because I don’t have all the words to say because I’m knee deep in crying and trying to listen to God, my girlfriend @alittlebitfancy says them for me,” writes Kramer. “But in her Words and her story on her loss. It’s powerful and strong and those who have suffered a loss I truly feel u can heal reading her blog. I know for me it helped.”
The powerful blog post, entitled What Heaven Takes, is an unfiltered look into the “unparallel love in its rawest form” that accompanies the heartbreak of miscarriage. Read the article in full here, and visit Focus on the Family today for other resources if you or someone you know needs help embracing hope after miscarriage.