By the late ’90s, he had figured out how to manage his pain in a healthy way.
“I just put [that pain] where it is: in the past,” said Grammer. “But it’s a pain that you can always stumble into again—it’s with you 24/7, especially in the case of tragic death, and there have been a few of those. It’s just part of life. Maybe I learned a little earlier than most, but it’s just the way it goes.”
After three failed marriages, Grammer found love in his now fourth wife, British former flight attendant Kayte Walsh.
But in 2008, he suffered a heart attack, and the couple endured several heartbreaking miscarriages.
“Kayte and I had a couple of miscarriages before we had our first child,” he admitted. “That was devastating. These things are hard. But when it’s good, it’s magnificent.”
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Today, by the grace of God, Grammer is alive and thriving. He’s called “dad” by his seven children: 33-year-old Spencer, 25-year-old Greer, 15-year-old Mason, 12-year-old Jude, 5-year-old Faith, 2-year-old Kelsey Jr. and 8-month-old Auden.
It’s taken a lot of years, and there’s been an enormous amount of heartache, but Grammer finally found his way back to the foundational rock that is Jesus Christ.
“As a Christian, we always fail because we can’t become Christ,” he said. “But I can try to at least emulate the best qualities, even if I may fall short.”
