“Thank You for Hurting Her”: Man’s Letter to His Girlfriend’s Ex-Boyfriend Will Totally Wreck You in the Best Way


“Thank you for hurting her.” Seriously? I don’t know about you, but those are just about the last words I would want to come out of the man who I want to spend the rest of my life with.

However, the road to our happily-ever-after is often paved with pain, loss, and rejection.

After a bad breakup or an abusive relationship, we can usually already hear the “God never shuts one door without opening another” and “God blessed the broken road that led me straight to you” clichés ringing in our heads.

Those little phrases sure make for fleeting pick-me-ups and cute memes, but let’s be honest — they ain’t got nothin’ on a broken heart.

But for anyone who’s ever felt abandoned, abused, or “let go,” one man’s words may just have the healing power you need to keep holding on to hope for the perfect guy out there for you.

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Ryan March is wooing over women across the web with the words he wrote for the man who let his girl go:

To the man who let her go,

Thank you. Thank you for walking out of her life, for leaving her. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to love her, to do things that would make her happy, to really keep her. Thank you for hurting her. If not, she wouldn’t have learned something valuable. I will try my best to not cause her pain, for it hurts me to see her cry. I will do all the things you failed to do for her like be there for her when she feels so alone, prioritize her and not make her feel like she is just an option, listen to her stories, rants and complaints no matter how bizarre or cliche they might be. Give her time and affection even when she is not asking for it. I will take care of the girl you failed to appreciate. I will love the girl you took for granted. I will do anything to keep her and make her stay. I will love her for all that she is, and will support her in anything that she wants to be. I will be the partner you failed to become for her. I will be the man who will never make the same mistake that you did. I will never let her go.

So the million-dollar question: How many Mr. Wrongs does it take to make a Mr. Right?

God only knows. But hopefully, these words straight from the mouth of a “keeper” are enough to keep your heartstrings sewn together until he comes along.

Kelsey Straeter
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