So she decided to change it.
“As a mother, as a parent, as someone who walks this earth and interacts with others, I ask you to ask yourself, what will be said about you when you are gone?
Are you kind? Are you gentle? Are you giving? Are you loving?
I am. Now.”
It’s been two years of overcoming her health issues. But nothing about that journey has had such magnitude as the night she almost died.
It took nearly dying for her to truly LIVE.
Reflecting on how people would remember her and share her memory with her daughter, Heather realized it’s OK if she hadn’t been that person in the past. Now, given the second chance, she vowed that her past wouldn’t define her future, and the only thing that mattered was making the changes that would allow her to be that person now.
“The power of replacing one negative thought or comment with a positive one is life altering. The power of surrounding yourself with people and circumstances that bring out the best in you is unimaginable. Take a look at your daily life and interactions, and if changes need to be made, make them. It is as simple as you allow it to be.”
It took some time, and Heather will be the first to admit that she’s an imperfect person living in an imperfect world, but eventually she was able to see her intentionality pay off.
After sitting with a friend for several hours of conversation, the friend made a remark about how Heather never spoke badly about anyone. It’s the moment that helped her realize that while she may have previously engaged in “mean girl” conversation, getting into a pattern of authentic discussions was so much easier and healthier.
At the end of it all, Heather just wants others to reflect on their life while they still have the chance. Thankful to have been given a second chance at life, she feels like part of her purpose is to share her story and inspire others to make a change in their own lives.
“Live. Put your phone down. Talk to the person in front of you. Hold the door for people. Smile if someone catches your eye. Say thank you. Say please. Give hugs. Compliment people. Compliment yourself. Love yourself. No one will remember what size the pants are you are wearing, but they will remember the way you walked in them. So walk softly. Speak boldly. Love gently. Laugh loudly. Call someone if they cross your mind. Allow yourself to be happy for others, and most importantly allow yourself to be happy for yourself, through every stage and step of your life. Be happy. Life doesn’t have to be perfect for it to be perfect.”
She ends her post by sharing what she hopes people would tell her daughter about her now: that she smiled, and laughed.
“And most importantly, that I loved. That I loved every single second of every second I was given.
And I hope someone will say the same about you as well.”
**Photo Credit: Facebook/Heather Anne Naples