6:42 The gang walks into the church but Bobby, a member of the Fab 5, won’t go in. Over the course of the episode, you learn he is a pastor’s kid who has been so hurt by the church he can’t even cross the threshold with no one around. How many thousands and thousands of Bobbys are out there that we’ve pushed away?
Soon you learn that Mama’s young adult son, Myles, was very involved in Church growing up but once he came out, he lost his entire church community. You see Mama with tears in her eyes talk about working through what her religion said and the incredible love she had for her son.
You see the Fab 5 work with Myles to share their own hurts about the church and yet recognize that this struggling young man in Gay, Georgia needs that community. They love and support him so he can step back into that church community with confidence.
Five GAY MEN helped this man find his way BACK TO CHURCH.
If you refuse to watch the whole episode or already have steam coming out of your ears at the very thought of anything regarding “homosexuality,” I implore you to watch starting at 43:22.
44:50 — Mama asks Bobby, “What have you learned this week?”
Bobby says, “To remember where I came from, to let go of some of the resentment, to remember that not everyone who claims to be Christian is good, but there are a whole lot of good ones out there.”
And then they embrace and smile and laugh.
This. This. This. This. This. THIS.
THIS IS WHAT THE CHURCH SHOULD LOOK LIKE.
Not screaming at each other about Leviticus 18:22 or 20:13. Not 217 different denominations because we can’t reside in the same space every time a new social issue comes along we don’t unanimously agree on.
Not shouting hate or going on insane political tirades.
This. This episode is what Jesus would want the church to look like.
Like having hard discussions.
Like embracing the vulnerability of saying, “When I read Leviticus, it says that’s not okay and I don’t fully understand that. But I do understand that we’re made to love our neighbors as ourselves. Sorry for how much the church has hurt and ostracized you. You’re my brother in Christ and let’s walk this thing out together. And please pass the potato salad.”
Like going out of our way to apologize to the communities we have not loved as we love ourselves and move towards them like these incredible humans did on Queer Eye.
The biggest problem in the American church isn’t a social issue or a president, it’s not programming or budget discrepancies: it’s unity.
It’s the vulnerability to admit we don’t have all the answers, and it’s the courage to love people who are different than we are.
“I appeal to you, brothers and sisters, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that all of you agree with one another in what you say and that there be no divisions among you, but that you be perfectly united in mind and thought.” 1 Corinthians 1:10
I think Paul would have some heated words for the American Church. Sorry, Paul. We’ll try to change.
So thank you Netflix and Queer Eye for having the audacity to do what most churches won’t: walk out into our communities with open hearts and open minds and break bread together as one body of Christ, as the Children of God, sons and daughters of Adam that we all are.
The truth is, the attendance numbers don’t lie: the Church needs saving and we can be that change we wish to see by following the examples of Mama, Bobby, Tan, Karamo, Jonathan and Antoni.
Let’s choose to be one Church united in our love of Christ and love of people.