Relative Asks Boy for a Big Hug & He Says “No”—Mom’s 6-Word Reply Has the Internet Cheering


We live in a culture that glorifies people-pleasing and doing the ‘socially acceptable’ thing. So when grandmas, grandpas, aunts and uncles ask for a big hug or a smooch on the lips, a child who was taught to be polite can have a tough time saying “no.”

The problem is, if we don’t offer them the right to say “no” now, how will they ever learn it in the future when the situation is perhaps more threatening and they are in the hands of a child molester?

Mum on the Run, Laura Mazza, understands this all too well, and thus has decided to allow her children the privilege of saying “no” (within reason, of course), as learning this now has far-reaching effects into adulthood.

When she allowed her son to decide whether or not he wanted to give a relative at a family get-together a goodbye hug, she was left with an awkward stare by the relative — but to Laura, a little awkwardness was worth teaching her son the right lesson: Your body is yours. And you have the right to say NO to any kind of physical touch. 

Read her viral Facebook post below: 

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“Recently relatives came to visit and asked for a goodbye hug, and my son promptly said ‘no.’ This person said ‘ohhh come on!! Just one big hug,’ and I was looked at by the relative like I should encourage him by saying ‘go on give her a hug!’
But instead, I said, ‘that’s okay you don’t have to’…

And what may have been considered as slightly awkward or rude on my part, it’s something I’m proud as a parent to say or do.

My responsibility first and foremost is to my children. As their mother, it’s my job to stand up for them when they can’t and teach them to learn to stand up for themselves.

I am their safe place, one that they trust and I won’t abuse that by insisting that they do something that makes them feel uncomfortable to be polite.

My son gets too much sometimes and wants to hug other kids, or his sister, a little too much. I can’t tell him ‘You can’t hug her/him if they don’t want to be hugged, but if uncle Albert demands a hug, you should give him one.’

Because I’m teaching my kids that no means no and that’s it’s okay to say ‘no.’

It means ‘no’ when I say ‘you can’t have an extra cookie.’

It means ‘no’ when your sister doesn’t want to wrestle.

It means ‘no’ when your girlfriend/boyfriend says ‘no’ to sex or if you or they say, ‘I’m not ready.’

It means ‘no’ when you say you don’t want to do something with your body that you don’t want to do. So it definitely means ‘no’ when someone asks you for a hug and you don’t want to give them one.

The message is that you can still be polite, nice and a good person and still say no.

Unfortunately, I know all too well what it’s like as a child to be obliged to do something and be polite as you were taught and we only have to spend 10 minutes on social media to see the statistics of children being forced into situations isn’t a low one.

But for now I’m their voice and I’m their advocate and I’ll make it count and hopefully that’ll give them the strength in all situations to remember my words and to know that they don’t have to do anything they don’t want to with their body and that, no means no and walk away.”

Since posting her powerful parenting advice championing for a child’s right to consent, hundreds of parents have cheered with approval and shared their own stories:

As commented by Facebook user Stephanie Brown, “No mixed messages about consent from the beginning will hopefully produce well-rounded, respectful humans!”

If you loved this parenting advice about teaching your kids the right to say “no,” please SHARE Laura’s wisdom with the parents you know on Facebook!

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