It is absolutely imperative for a husband and wife to nurture sexual intimacy in their marriage. This relationship is meant to last forever. And you don’t want a wedge to drive you apart. This is certainly the case for my husband and me.
Here are 7 fabulously sexy ways to nurture sexual intimacy with your spouse:
1.) Pray together and read your Bible every day—When you bring your concerns and seek God first in everything, He will fill the empty places in your heart and life. God heals every hurt. He provides a way to achieve the intimacy you want when you feed your intimacy with Him first. And when you hold your thoughts and feelings up to the light of God’s truth, the lies of rejection, shame and temptation will not hold you in chains anymore, and then you are free to foster intimacy in your marriage.
2.) Communicate with your spouse on a deep level—Share your heart, talk about your dreams and confess your struggles to one another because this increases your emotional, mental and spiritual connection. This also eliminates keeping secrets from each other.
3.) Date each other like you did in the beginning of your relationship—This helps you remember why you fell in love in the first place.
4.) Leave sexy love notes in your spouse’s laptop case, purse, wallet, lunch box or on the bathroom mirror—This loving act will help your spouse feel wanted, loved and cherished, and he or she will remember their attraction to you.
5.) Snuggle, kiss, hold hands and hug each other daily—Showing affection to each other reminds you of your love and attraction for one another and it builds healthy anticipation for sexual intercourse.
6.) Jump in the shower or take a bubble bath together—Washing and massaging each other gently increases closeness between husband and wife.
7.) Experiment with different positions, safe and gentle sex toys, and lubricants to bring pleasure to each other within the bonds of marriage. Read the book Intended for Pleasure by Ed and Gaye Wheat. It will shed light on what is right for you as a couple.
{A note of warning: Pornography is not a healthy or appropriate way to strengthen the sexual intimacy in your marriage. It will only create more problems in your relationship and it often leads to adultery in most cases. In fact, it is a form of adultery. In addition, using pornography will lead to addiction which is a parasite, and it will kill your marriage if is not addressed with treatment, prayer and divine intervention.}
This is not a complete list of ways to cultivate sexual intimacy in your marriage. It is a list of things that helped my husband and me to work on overcoming our problem with sexual intimacy. We are still a work in progress. And honestly, it hurts us more to carry this burden alone, so I share our story to say that we are not the only couple who suffers from this issue. It is better not to isolate ourselves with the prideful attitude of having it all together. We can only get better if we get real.
What steps have you taken to encourage and foster sexual intimacy in your marriage? I am with you, friend. You are not alone! I am praying with you and for you. Feel free to share your struggle and story in the comments below.
About the Author: Rhonda Marie Stalb is an author, counselor and writer. She’s passionate about helping others through obstacles, trauma, grief, depression, anxiety, stress and relational problems. Her desire is to write posts that compel you to take action in your life and posts that ignite passion and the determination to upset the status quo.
