7. Lusting & Flirting With People Other Than Your Husband
This should be an obvious one, but a woman who either secretly or openly flirts with other men has the ability to immediately make her spouse feel ‘less than’, ashamed and embarrassed. When we married our spouses, they became our only ‘type’; you are your husband’s and he is yours. Talking about other men or hinting at the attractiveness of other men is degrading and disrespectful to our husbands and creates insecurity in their hearts.
8. Avoiding Issues With Your Husband
Holding grudges and keeping a record of your husband’s wrongs, rather than talking things out and expressing what’s really on your mind, will likely lead to bitterness and resentment on both ends. If you continue to allow bitterness to fester in your heart, you will bring up past arguments when new situations arise, causing your husband to feel as if there is never any progress made.
9. Taunting Your Husband
Do you provoke your husband? Do you push his buttons for the sake of attention or to test his response? Do you nag at him when he walks in the door for not helping enough around the house, even though he has worked a 40/60/80 hour week? A taunt is defined as, “a remark made in order to anger, wound or provoke someone.” We would probably never openly admit that we ‘taunt’ our husbands, but think back to the comments made the past few days — were they meant for building up or for tearing down?
10. Envy of Other Marriages
Contentment is huge. And when we display discontentment in our lives, our husband immediately feels the need to ‘fix, fix, fix’ until he feels like there’s nothing more [than] he can do and he just wants to give up. The more time and energy we waste comparing our marriages (or husbands) to that of other people, and telling him who he isn’t or who he needs to be, the more we miss out on the beautiful quirks and gifts in the person that God gave to us.
