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7 Lies About Sex — Even Within the Christian Culture

5. If I have sex before marriage, I am tainted forever.

The church has implicitly (and explicitly) taught this for decades. And it’s not true. Yes, it is God’s desire for every man and woman to enter marriage without a sexual past. But it’s also God’s nature to take even the worst scenario and make it beautiful.

So, if you made mistakes sexually, God can and will forgive you. If you are a victim of sexual abuse, God can and will heal you. Don’t believe the lies you hear. You can still be used by God. You can still have a marriage that flourishes, and you can still enjoy intercourse with your current (or future) spouse.

But you must let go of shame and trust God’s power to completely forgive you.

6. If I think about sex, I am wrong.

God created you with sexual desires. And he doesn’t expect you to suppress them. He expects you to control them. And, again, the church’s failure to address intercourse gives Satan an open door.

God expects you to control your sexual desires, not suppress them. I will be the first to say lust is sin. Jesus makes it cut and dry (Matt. 5:28-29). But almost every teaching I hear on lust begins and ends like this:

“Lust is wrong. Don’t do it. Let’s pray.”

What the church needs to do is differentiate between lust and sexual desire. Lust is desiring something that is not yours. Lust is looking at another human being more as a piece of meat than a creation of God.

Sexual desire, however, is natural and healthy. It must be controlled. Of course. But it’s natural. So, don’t suppress your sexual desires. If you do, don’t expect to turn them on when you get married. At the same time, don’t give in to your sexual desires. Pray for self-control. Have an accountability group. Talk to someone you know and trust. But don’t give in.

7. Having sex is a more significant sin than porn, masturbation, or lust.

This was my attitude as a teenager and young adult. I knew intercourse was wrong. And I thought that having it outside of marriage would result in God turning me into a gnome or something.

So, how might a teenager afraid of becoming a gnome keep himself from having sex? Use other means to “release” what I thought was uncontrollable sexual desire.

“What’s the problem, Frank? That sounds like a great idea?”

Yeah, except it’s not.

Going back to Jesus, he says, “The mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Matt 12:34). What is Jesus really saying here? Your external actions are just an overflow of your heart’s desires.

Your external actions are an overflow of your heart’s desires. So, having intercourse is simply an outpouring of a heart and mind filled with lust and impure thoughts. There is no distinction between adultery (having sex) and porn, masturbation, or lust (other means). What matters is the condition of your heart.

The goal for Christian purity isn’t physical abstinence as much as it is a heart free from impurity and lust.

Sex is a beautiful gift God gives to married couples. The church must create space for healthy discussions about it. This will be awkward, yes. But until Christians understand the mystery and power of sex, we will continue to be plagued by skewed expectations and broken lives.

About Frank Powell

Devoted follower of Christ, college/young adult minister, husband to , dad to Noah and Micah, avid blogger/writer, sports fan. You can follow him on twitter here and read more blogs here!

Frank Powell
Frank Powell
Devoted follower of Christ, college/young adult minister, husband to @tiffanipowell, dad to Noah and Micah, avid blogger/writer, sports fan. You can follow him on twitter and read more of his blogs here!

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