The point is that God is faithful and every move and change and loss in our life is because He sees the need to make room in our heart for something else — usually, Himself. Even if I hadn’t met my husband later that year, that breakup happened because it was supposed to happen and the time I spent healing, instead of trying to fix or control it, forced me to lean on God in a way I hadn’t before. It caused me to seek God on a personal level, not just a churchy level.
So if you find yourself in one of those tough situations, trying to figure out whether or not you should salvage a relationship that has crumbled, and what God’s will is for the relationship, I want to advise you to consider a few things before you run back to the guy.
What To Consider Before Going Back To Him;
- Are you trying to fill the hole in your heart with the guy who was there before or letting it be mended by the God who has always been there (Psalm 147:3)?
- If you don’t have complete peace about getting back together, if you even have to ask this question and find yourself wrestling, there’s a reason you don’t have peace about it.
- This period of life, this pain and healing, might just be life-changing for you in more ways than one because if faith can move mountains, it can certainly help you move on.
Like I said, I can’t tell you what to do in your unique situation, but I can challenge you to examine your motives for getting back together and consider the amount of peace you truly have about it.
Unless you can say with absolute certainty that you have complete peace about getting back together (or dating someone in general) that you don’t have to convince yourself of or talk yourself into, then you shouldn’t step back into that relationship. If there’s not a deep-seated peace in your heart about it, there’s a reason for that. Don’t overlook it or ignore that reality when your emotions or feelings of loneliness become overwhelming. It’s not worth the cost.
So, forgive him but also give yourself permission to move on and guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23).
Healing comes when we let God not just fill, but also heal, the hole that the guy left there. He not only heals the hole but also make the heart WHOLE through that healing.
Healing isn’t the easy way, though. It’s the hard way. You might get frustrated and cry and may even have to leave the big game early just to ferociously pedal away at the stationary bike. It might feel like despite your best effort, regardless of how hard you’re pedaling, you’re just not moving…not getting anywhere.
But that doesn’t mean it’s not working. That doesn’t mean God’s not there. That doesn’t mean you’re not getting stronger.
So go ahead — pedal harder, cry it out, wipe your tears, and look up. His greater plan is closer than you think, it’s right before your eyes — even if it’s hidden beneath a helmet…even if you don’t recognize it yet.