I HATE that these things are true. I want people to see Kaden and see what I see…. the kid that never enters or leaves the house without hugging me, the kid that carries groceries without being asked, and who volunteers to help the homeless, tutor and coach youth, binge watches Jeopardy and the Office and thinks deeply about complex topics. He listens to rap, but will also crone out country tunes and knows every lyric to eighties hair band songs. He’s a kid who tells me the truth even when it hurts. I want them to see the kind heart, the smiling eyes and the gentle soul. But, often what they see is a big, strong, black guy. They see a threat. A thug.
‘Not being racist’ is not enough. Stand up for what is right and just. Challenge unconscious bias, stereotypes and fear-based hate. Listen out for and correct micro-inequities. When you see a black or brown person remember they are someone’s baby …. And quite possibly MY baby boy. They are more than a color, more than a label. Be kind, be brave, take a stand and make love win.
The same message applies for stereotyping, fearing and hating police. They too are individuals and cannot be categorically classified. Most are committed, loving, caring and hard-working individuals. Support those who are doing the right thing and DO NOT tolerate those who are abusing power.
In my family we have open, honest and meaningful conversations about race. I’ve learned a lot from LISTENING to people of color explain their perspective. If you’ve never had the opportunity to do this I would strongly encourage you to do so. If you don’t know how to start please reach out to me. I’m happy to share my journey.”
**This post was written by Kim Glaspie Russell and originally appeared on her Facebook page.
