Hey man, should I ask her out?
When I was in high school and college, the easiest (read: least ballsy) way to ask a girl out was instant message. If you wanted to get to know a girl without risking rejection, you somehow got her screen name then flirted relentlessly through a cryptic instant message.
It’s no secret that texting is the new norm. The amount of effort and the gall it takes to stand face-to-face and ask a girl out is slowly fading.
Young men no longer have the nervous coming-of-age experience when they stare into a girl’s eyes, heart-pounding with fear of rejection, and ask her out for the first time. A recent study reported that 67% of high school students hide behind a screen and shoot a text to ask a girl to prom.
But it’s not just high school students. As USA Today recently reported, approximately 38% of 21-26 year-olds and 36% of 27-34 year-olds that schedule dates over text.
I was recently ragging on a friend of mine the other day about texting a girl to “hang out,” reminding him that real men don’t text (especially for dates). We discussed why it’s not a good idea to text for a date and he admitted: “It doesn’t require much to ask a girl out since texting takes all the fear of rejection away.”
So what? It’s just modern communication, right? Should I ask her out through text is acceptable now
Your dating strategy is your decision, but may I suggest that there is a better way to find a woman worth committing to? If you’re wanting more from your dating life and have desire to grow in character, integrity, and respect—I’m here to help. It’s time to figure out how to ask a woman out like a man.
Before we begin, I feel we need to clear something up: a group hangout is not a date. I repeat, a group hangout is not a date. It is a great way to get to know her, but it sure as heck is not a date.
Should I Ask Her Out? Yes! And here’s how to do it:
1. Start by getting her number (i.e. don’t ask her friends). Don’t text her, tweet her, Facebook her, email her, comment on her blog, or chat her.
2. Figure out where you’d like to take her, on what day, and what time before you ask. It’s your job to have a plan if you’re doing the asking.