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The Simple Marriage Prayer That Will Put Your Focus On God

"When we pray these words, we are acknowledging that He is in control of us, and we are not in control of each other. It is offering our own will in exchange for God’s will."

Dear ‘Good Parents’: This Is How You Miss the Signs of Sexual Abuse in Your Child

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Twins Found Floating Face Down in Backyard Pool. 6-Yr-Old Who Can’t Swim Dives in After Them in Bold Rescue.

“They were completely gone, there was no life left in them. They were blue. They were limp. There was no heartbeat. There was nothing."

My Son Came Home Yesterday With a Bite Mark on His Arm. And I Did Absolutely Nothing About It.

My son came home yesterday with a bite mark on his arm and here’s what I did about it:

Nothing.

His arm was bandaged, he was smiling—I signed an incident report which stated he didn’t even cry at the time—and I have enough trust in his teachers to believe they handled it accordingly with the other kid.

Courtesy Stephanie Hanrahan

Do I need to be upset about it even if he’s not? Nah. Do I need to place blame on the other child or his parents? No way. Because the truth is, children are wonderfully unpredictable little people. So, when they veer off course, when they decide to ditch our plan for good behavior and take their teeth to someone instead, I’ve learned the best way to handle it is to be relational, not reactional. Meaning, how can I relate to the person in the wrong, instead of simply reacting emotionally to the wrongdoing?

And that’s easy to do in this situation because all children are simply learning, mine included, and that deserves a degree of empathy. I certainly never want my son to be hurt, but I also understand that we are raising children who have their own will and their own way, and sometimes that way is disappointing or needs correction.

While not all children are biters, hitters, or pushers, I can’t name a single one who hasn’t needed correcting of behavior, whether that’s simply to not throw food off their tray or to pick up their toys. We are all in the business of bettering our children, so in this situation, there shouldn’t be blame. As long as the parents and teachers are correcting the wrongdoing, offering the child a better alternative to biting, then my son was just a casualty of another child learning and growing, and I’m A-Okay with that.

Courtesy Stephanie Hanrahan

My son may have been on the receiving end this time, but he’s also been the pusher of peers in the past. I remember back then how awful I felt about it—not being able to control my child’s unfavorable behavior—and I would’ve given anything to have just one mom look up at me and say, ‘I’ve been there too. It’s okay.’

Stephanie Hanrahan
Stephanie Hanrahan
Stephanie Hanrahan is wife to a sick husband, mother to special needs kiddos, and a woman who often unravels then finds her footing again. Learn how she traded her pretending for a panty liner on Instagram, Facebook, and her blog, Tinkles Her Pants (www.tinklesherpants.com), where she leaks nothing but the truth.

The Simple Marriage Prayer That Will Put Your Focus On God

"When we pray these words, we are acknowledging that He is in control of us, and we are not in control of each other. It is offering our own will in exchange for God’s will."

Dear ‘Good Parents’: This Is How You Miss the Signs of Sexual Abuse in Your Child

How do good parents miss child sexual abuse? It is simple.

Twins Found Floating Face Down in Backyard Pool. 6-Yr-Old Who Can’t Swim Dives in After Them in Bold Rescue.

“They were completely gone, there was no life left in them. They were blue. They were limp. There was no heartbeat. There was nothing."