Disclaimer: This is a letter written in a Christian perspective. If you are a not a Christian and you do not agree, that’s expected. A lot of people will get offended and I’ll understand. But we, Christians, are called to be the salt and light of this world. Having said so, the Bible should be the final authority in what we believe and what we stand up for.
We can agree to disagree on one thing. But let me just quote what Rick Warren once said:
“Our culture has accepted two huge lies: The first is that if you disagree with someone’s lifestyle, you must fear them or hate them. The second is that to love someone means you agree with everything they believe or do. Both are nonsense. You don’t have to compromise convictions to be compassionate.”
With that said . . .
I am not bashing anyone or a certain individual. This post is not an attack against a person’s character. I believe we have our free will and it’s up to us on how we would want to live our lives.
However, I only disagree with the principle/lifestyle that our society is accepting—that just because everyone’s doing it, then that means it’s right. It’s one way to say that the norms justify the sin. But it doesn’t and it never will.
Well, these are the lies that our culture now tells us:
- “You know the true character of people when you live under the same roof. So you should live together before getting married.
It’s true that it’s one thing to know a person deeply in a relationship and it’s a totally different thing to actually live with them and see all of their flaws, bad habits, beliefs, accustomed culture, failures and bad decisions, etc. However, most people have used this as an excuse to justify their fear of commitment. People want to get all the benefits of marriage but they don’t want to be married.
People are so absorbed in wanting “assurance” that they treat other people as a “dry run” to see whether or not they will consider marriage. But that kind of mindset boils down to one thing: SELFISHNESS. An ugly picture of ‘love’ that is conditional—one that basically says:
If you meet all my standards, then I’ll marry you.
If you make me feel loved, then I’ll marry you.
If you serve me, then I’ll marry you.
If you make me happy and you meet all my needs, then I’ll marry you.
If you don’t make bad decisions, then I’ll marry you.
If you earn enough, then I’ll marry you.
If you don’t hurt my feelings, then I’ll marry you.