Tag: sex

I used to think the reason my husband wasn’t actively pursuing me was just a matter of growing complacent in marriage...I was wrong.

"If our reason for saving sex until marriage is that we believe it will make sex better or easier for us later, we’re not only setting ourselves up for disappointment, but we’re missing the point entirely."

One morning in college, I woke up, got ready and drove to a church to buy myself a purity ring. My heart ached a little bit at the thought of it because I had already had sex before marriage, and because even at that time, the last word that I would have used to define myself was “pure.”

He was the only married man at the time. In a moment of brutal honesty, one of them said to John, “I just don’t understand how you can have sex with the same woman all the time. That seems boring.”

I don’t have a problem with what the church is telling Christians to do and not do regarding sex. I have a problem with why we are often telling Christians not do these things.

"Virginity refers to an event. Its loss might be a past event or a future event, but it is still a one-time occurrence."

"This is not God’s plan for marriage. Marriages are not meant to be endured."

"I never understood the value of my purity until I freely gave it away. We never really discussed boundaries…I mean, why would we? He was a Christian. I was a Christian."