But what about you? Raising kids, cleaning the house, cooking, making repairs, appointment keeping, working 24 hours 7 days a week, is our lives now worth nothing where we are reduced to asking to buy ourselves a necessity?
Actually, I read a scientific study done by a working dad that said mothers would earn 148,000 a year if they were paid. Crazy right?
We are lucky to be with our children, we are privileged, yes, settle down Nancy, we know we are blessed, we are not ungrateful, but we go through a lot, and losing our identity and becoming or being made to feel like a financial burden is one. Being looked at like we are scum when we do work and have to leave to get sick kids isn’t fun, sometimes we simply can’t win.
Mothers who stay home, you are not inadequate, you are not a burden, what you bring to your home is contributing. You should not have to ask, if money is there, for necessities. You’re not some lazy woman who drains the credit card on shoes and screw anyone who talks like that.
And partners who work, I implore you, treat your spouse like a partner, like an equal. You created these children together. Money does not give you the power in a relationship, that is not what relationships are about. Using money as a form of power is a form of abuse.
Successful relationships need to discuss budgets, talk about their needs, and be a part of a team. Treat the mother of your children like just that. The mother of your children. And don’t ever let her ask you for money for a bloody bra.”
**This post was written by Laura Mazza and originally appeared on her Facebook page. For more musings about motherhood, follow her here.
